Struggling to keep up with your new year resolutions? It is reported that 80% of New Year resolutions do not make it into February. One of the reasons for this may be motivation. Your motivation was probably relatively high when you first started but evidence suggests it takes 66 days to form a habit.
The other thing to be aware of is that we often concentrate on what we want to achieve which is actually the wrong thing to focus on. If someone were to ask you what you want to achieve the majority of us would say money, lose weight, give up smoking…. but actually losing all that weight, giving up smoking, having more money in the bank, is not actually going to necessarily keep you there if you do not focus on what it is that led you to where you are now.
So, would it better to ask yourself what you want but then ask yourself why? Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to give up smoking? Why do you want more money in the bank? As soon as you know your why, that will be the motivating factor to drive you towards achieving your goals.
A lot of the time people get stuck because they think they are not in control but the actual fact is you are always in control whether it is an issue with food, smoking etc. You choose at that moment whether you are going to have that next cigarette or that cream doughnut. You may not be in control of your situation but you are always in control of how you react to it.
The point is, and I will take weight loss as an example, what you really need to do is change your relationship with food rather than focusing on losing weight. The definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. If you have lost weight and regained it hopeless amounts of times, it is not losing weight that is the problem it is your relationship with food that is the issue. Do you eat more when you are happy? Stressed? Upset? Bored? By challenging your relationship with food, it no longer becomes the issue and you will then naturally lose weight.
Hypnosis will access the subconscious mind so that those long held patterns of behaviour can change. The other thing to acknowledge is that being specific with an issue can put you in the trap of lumping you in a category. Whilst you may see me about weight loss you may actually need to target your underlying causes of overeating. This is why seeing a hypnotherapist on an individual basis who will work a treatment plan around you specifically is far more beneficial. I saw a client earlier on this year who said she wanted to see me about weight loss and anxiety. I explained to her that I would see her for the anxiety first because if she was able to resolve the anxiety this may automatically mean she will lose weight as we would be looking at coping mechanisms she had used to help her anxiety. Saying you want to lose weight is too much of a blanket term, you are a unique individual and so are your goals.
Food, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, in my opinion it is not a physical addiction but a psychological one and I know that hypnotherapy and/or counselling can help. Please feel free to contact me for more information.