This is a burning question that often comes into the therapy room. Even when we have every-thing we think we wanted, it still feels like something else is missing. When we try to determine what our Soul purpose may be, it would be a good idea to look at will-fulness and willingness.

Will-fulness comes from a limited ego that feels like we have to force or make things happen for ourselves. From this perspective we limit ourselves as we do not open ourselves up to the universe and trust that things are working out exactly as they should be. When we come from this direction we look outwardly to the beliefs and attitudes of others, we tend to be aware of what other people think of us, we can remain fearful of failure so we don’t end up thinking big because we limit our potential based on our community, based on other people’s experiences and we compare ourselves to other people. We can lose our self esteem and end up handing our power over to others.

However, when we come from a place of willingness, we make ourselves open and available. If you make yourself open and receptive, open to the guidance of others and recognise that fear is an illusion, you cannot fail. You only have to look at the way in which scientists work to see that it is inconceivable for them to fail. They see failure as a step forward to something even more unimaginable. To be the best version of ourselves we have to open up and participate in the activation of our potential which is bigger than we ever thought possible. We have to eradicate those experiences that limit our perceptions, create for yourself something that goes beyond the paradigm of our community.

When I go back to my 18 year old self, I was so limited in what I thought was possible. I did not have the concept to think big. I knew I wanted to have children at some point, own a house, settle down, but that is not who I really am. When I look back over the last 20 years, I can see that life has taken many twists and turns. Some of those twists and turns have been brilliant opportunities whilst others have been extremely difficult. But the interesting thing is, that the things that did not work out as planned, those times when I thought it was the end of the world, ended up being the best thing that ever happened to me. My spiritual and psychotherapeutic training along with lived experience, has taught me to step out of victim mode and into power because we cannot be in our power when we are in victim mode. When it feels like everything is going wrong that’s the universe telling us that something else needs our attention. This is where your souls purpose comes in.

Have you ever heard of the mid life crisis? That time when you get everything you want on the physical level but still feel like something is missing? That’s what I am talking about. We rarely look holistically at ourselves. We look at ourselves through the lens of what is expected of us. When you lose the idea of caring what others think of you, you can experience true freedom and seek opportunities to get your needs met on an emotional, mental and spiritual level not just physically and financially. Success is within us. It can’t be gained from looking outside for something or someone else to make us happy. If you are trying to find out what your soul purpose is, ask yourself, “Who am I?” You are not your job, your relationship, your bank balance, you are far more than that and any limitation in your thinking will keep you small.

You have so much potential but first you have to shatter all the beliefs and attitudes you have because your soul wants to do something new, who you are becoming is far greater than you could have anticipated.

Counselling or hypnotherapy can help with understanding ourselves on a deeper level. If you would like to get in touch then feel free to get in touch.